I strongly recommend a book called "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. People either love it or hate it, I think.
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Huzzah! More sexism quotes!
*Make up your own S & M joke and throw it in here, I can't think of one right now*
No, I'd rather not be an unpaid domestic servant for a lazy and dependent controlling jackass. I'd rather be on equal footing with someone who's pleasant to be around.
"Helpmeet" nothing. God helps those who help themselves.
It seems clear here that you're married to a manchild. An adult can handle more varied social situations than domination and submission. They can handle egalitarian relationships. Manchildren, however, see the world as bosses and bitches.
And you're just stupid enough to give him the boss position.
In one way, this woman is correct: It’s an exercise in futility, not to mention grossly insulting, for one partner to try and change the other. Spouses should pick up the slack for each other, according to their interests and abilities, as opposed to pecking at each other over minutia.
If the wife likes her lunch on-time, and the hubby doesn’t care, then let her make the lunch. If the husband wants his clothes folded a certain way, and the wife doesn’t care, then let him fold the clothes.
She’s also correct in that spouses should respect each other, never airing their dirty laundry in public, for example, and never sniping at each other in front of company.
Alas, poor Maggie thinks this is a one-way street; that she owes her husband respect and good manners, whereas he can ride for free. She might inspire him to treat her better, but it’s more likely she’ll inspire him to hate her for her lack of a spine.
"Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as the Lord is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also should wives submit to their husbands in everything."
This is from the same guy, that judgmental, sexually dysfunction misogynist, Paul, who says (in 1 Corinthians 7:1): "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman." And later (1 Cor 7:7-9): "For I would that all men were even as I myself (i.e. lacking sex drive). But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."
But by completely ignoring what you want him to do, how will he ever know what you do want him to do?
Men and women think differently, you know.
Ah yes, the joys of suffragette movement.
(Amusingly, people think women's suffrage should be banned because they confuse it with sufferage. There was a joke petition to see how many people would sign the petition)
If this isn't a way to breed misogyny, laziness, ignorance and selfishness into any male children they may have, I don't know what is.
'But when I follow God's way - respect what He set up for us in His word - Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as the Lord is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also should wives submit to their husbands in everything."
For fundies, it's all about 1 thing - CONTROL! As in, men MUST have the right to control women - and by extension, children - and there must be NO questioning of MEN, in the fundy worldview.
Anyone who follows the Pearls needs their head examined.
If you don´t respect him, don´t force it artificially. It´s something that he has to work through God, because it´s his responsability. If he´s an idiot, it´s his problem.
Being a considerate, emphatic and kind person ought to be enough for both him and her, to be each other's Help Meet.
Why would you be mad if your spouse have no lunch? You just say "hey, love, let's make lunch together".
Respect goes both way, you know. If you show someone respect, he or she will often show respect in return. If not, then he or she does not deserve any respect from you.
Submit to my husband? [snorts] Yeah, if he submits to me.
Me and my husband help EACH OTHER. I am better at some things, he is better at other things. We complement each other very well. If I let him have his way sometimes, he will do the same to me at other times.
Relationships like this remind me of BDSM.
One thing I will say, if you come home from church and dh has no lunch for you - don't act mad. Don't say a word. Prepare the night before something that can be heated up quick or a cold lunch. But getting mad at him will not help win him to Christ. Let him be. He's your husband and you need to have respect for him.
Well, I see no problems so far. It can be annoying when one spouse doesn't make lunch for the other, but no biggy. And a wife should respect her husband, providing he deserves it. And visa-versa.
I have had a hard time finding respect for my dh sometimes. But when I follow God's way - respect what He set up for us in His word - Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as the Lord is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also should wives submit to their husbands in everything."
More Bible bullshit. I ignore such drivel, no matter what it is.
Now, I know that's not always easy! It takes a lot of prayer and not getting your way when you want it and a lot of giving your frustrations to the Lord and asking Him to help you thru, but the rewards are incalculable. You feel peace inside for obeying the Lord and your family will be so much better served.
So...what happened? Husband not wipe his feet before coming in?
Confused?
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