I have been married to a man for over 25 years that is constantly critical of me and verbally abusive. We cannot have a discussion about anything without him flinging personal attacks or belittling my thinking processes etc. My husband is not saved and the enemy uses his tongue as a weapon, this is a spiritual battle not flesh and blood. Jesus is my warrior and my Defender and even though my husbands critical and negative words continue to hurt me I go to Jesus and He helps me. Until Jesus decides to do something different in the situation I will obey Him none the less. He never fails to bless me in ways that enable me press on.
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Your husband sounds like a dick, but it might just be triggered by, I would guess, you bothering him about being unsaved.
And everyone in that thread is CELEBRATING posts like these. Holy shit. Just look at this reply:
"My goodness ladies. You are all blessed to be so extraordinarily patient and understanding of your husbands when they are moody! In my family, the women are the pushy ones. I tell myself I won't be that way but at the same time I can't see myself marrying someone who has a criticizing attitude.
You are all very inspirational though. It is nice to see people approaching marriage with a Christian determination. I don't see enough of that around me in my day-to-day life . . . so many people cycling through relationships or divorces."
They call these people "inspirational", "determined", and best of all "blessed."
This is...not as much Fundie as Fucking Sad.
Leave his ass, eve_anne_gelical! Leave his sorry ass behind and take any kids that you may have with you!
Well the advice I was given in your shoes is to pray, and if that doesn't work, just pray harder.
Of course I'm the evil one, because I left after he put me through a wall and gave me VD.
WARNING: attempt at fundie logic
The husban is supposed to be the spiritual leader of the family. If you do not follow his spiritual leadership then you are not following the Bible. There for, by not following your non-christian husban you are not a Christian!
Your loving savior Jesus wants you to stay with an abusive non-believer? That seems...wrong, somehow. Maybe it is Satan that wants you to stay with the abusive asshole, and Jesus keeps hoping you'll wise up and get out!
In any other situation, I would be taking this woman at face value, but given the massive persecution complex that Rapture Readians live under, I get the feeling that she's overblowing this entire thing way out of proportion, and using 'personal attacks' incorrectly. In all likelihood, they're having religious disagreements, and the husband is dismantling her arguments, and she's not happy.
Or he is being verbally abusive. Could be either, but with RR, I'm always taking that second grain of salt.
I doubt if he's an abuser: it's probably that she just goes on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on, and he feels that sometimes he has to get a word in. Poor bastard: and what a tolerant husband (I'd have been out of there from day one).
fergus
Agreed Redfergus... the way she describes her husbands actions are the EXACT same way those kind of fundies describe the actions of anyone who disagrees with their Raptarded beliefs...
That, and given the number of quotes from there that have made claims that are incredibly obviously lies, I take anything they say with a large pinch of salt...
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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