[I often wonder how people like Hank make it through life seemingly unaware of how ‘the other’ lives in the same world he does, but with countless fewer opportunities]

Let me clear up that puzzle for you. People like Hank are focusing on their own worries and responsibilities, their wives, children, parents, friends, neighbors and coworkers. They have their own troubles, their own failings and weak spots, unfufilled dreams, unfinished plans, obligations and debts. And all the while they must deal with all of the above while countless tens of millions view them as "the other", gifted, able, privilieged, somehow blessed based on nothing more than their race or gender or faith and hold them both in contempt and at the same time some odd type of obligatory enslavement to their needs, their wants, their troubles and fears. It's like those little burros you see in Egypt piled up with more baggage than ten men could carry and some kid with a stick whipping its ass while he strolls along behind with nothing more than a fez and a caftan weighing him down.
You know how we get through the day without thinking of 'the other' ? The same way you do, Adria, black jewish female. We haven't got time or concern for your imaginaery fears and unwarranted demands, we already pay the lion sharew of taxes to put your kind through schools, feed your offspring, house you and provide for your cell phones, we've given up half of the slots in college and all of the jobs in government and an ever increasing share in the public sector to loafers and malcontents and shiftless layabouts with bad attititudes and a never decreasing list of fresh demands for even more.

There's a reason you will always be the other.