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Proms are awsome, you'll have lots of fun. I realize that you don't feel comfortable around him, thats normal. But if you ignore him then it will just get worse. Talk to him, learn about him! He goes to your church, so its not like he is a rapist or anything!

MetalBlade, Christian Forums 22 Comments [6/1/2003 12:00:00 AM]
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Redhunter

\"Proms are awsome, you'll have lots of fun.\"

I thought prom was expensive and boring and it overall sucked.

I realize that you don't feel comfortable around him, thats normal.\"

You think it is 'normal' for a girl to be nervous around another student? Maybe there is something wrong with him to make her nervous, maybe she is overly nervous. Forcing a union doens't sound healthy.

\"But if you ignore him then it will just get worse.\"

Why? Will he start stalking her? that doesn't seem like a good idea to get closer to someone like that.

\"Talk to him, learn about him!\"

Even if she makes him nervous?

\"He goes to your church, so its not like he is a rapist or anything!\"

Right, 'cause nobody that goes to church has ever done anything wrong, crime is ONLY caused by non-believers in christ, duh!

And does promgirl ever get to the prom or is she now featured on the back of a milk carton?

6/26/2006 12:33:18 PM

Crosis

<<< Proms are awsome, you'll have lots of fun. >>>

Didn't go to mine. I would have had more fun watching paint dry (as it was, I just got together with a few of my friends who had similar opinions about the merits of prom).

<<< I realize that you don't feel comfortable around him, thats normal. >>>

Depends on how uncomfortable. Being nervous, particularly on a first date, isn't unusual at all - but if it's anything more than that, there's a good chance something is wrong. The worst advice you can ever give to someone when something seems out of place is to ignore it.

<<< But if you ignore him then it will just get worse. >>>

I'm going to be charitable and interpret this to mean that the nerves will get worse. Might be true, in that case - but if Redhunter's interpretation is correct, this is seriously bad advice.

<<< He goes to your church, so its not like he is a rapist or anything! >>>

There it is, folks: one of the worst bits of advice you can ever give to anyone: to let your guard down with a person you don't know particularly well who makes you nervous.

Maybe nothing happened. But I could very easily see that ending very, very badly.

6/27/2006 3:50:29 AM

onehotminute

\"He goes to your church, so its not like he is a rapist or anything!\"

And what happens when the poor girl is a date rape victim because of the guy?

2/25/2007 8:24:23 PM

BurntBush

No True Scotsman!

2/26/2007 12:10:49 AM

JP

Doesn't sound like she's going to have fun to me

2/26/2007 9:34:34 PM

Nny

Just because he goes to church does not mean he's a good guy.

1/21/2008 3:45:07 AM

Brian X

Anonymous knows all. Anonymous is the only one who listens. And Anonymous doesn't give a shit.

1/21/2008 6:11:21 AM

Viva

What do those things have to do with each other.

1/21/2008 6:33:54 AM

PunkRawkChris

Oh how stupid of us, we must have forgotten that christians never do anything wrong, mark david chapman. If you believe in jesus you wouldn't hurt a fly, jonestown massacre. I hope she had fun at the prom, crusades.

1/21/2008 7:51:02 AM

Freboy

Oh, great.

So all a rapist has to do to gain trust is hang around in church?

Be sure to write that down, motherfuckers.

1/21/2008 9:23:49 AM



Or go with someone whose better.

6/30/2008 10:54:15 PM

GigaGuess

Yeah, a rape victim NEVER knows her attacker.

2/22/2009 8:17:49 PM

Kanna

Don't try to talk her into something with someone around whom she is "uncomfortable". Maybe she should trust her instincts rather than her hormones.

1/17/2017 6:23:38 PM

Wanderer

"He goes to your church, so its not like he is a rapist or anything!"

Because rapists are so obvious, and don't have religious beliefs, right?

1/17/2017 6:42:34 PM



Priests go to church too. A number of altar boys wish they didn't.

1/17/2017 6:44:30 PM

freako104

Unless you ignore him and it gets worse. One doesn't need Christianity to be moral; one does not need be moral to be Christian

1/17/2017 9:09:44 PM

Shepard Solus

About that...

1/18/2017 12:06:18 AM

Swede

I didn't go to my prom, as I had few friends in school at that time.

If they're so fun, why can't she go on her own, or with friends?
Not feeling comfortable around a person is a warning sign that that person might not be as stable as you wish, or simply doesn't share your interests. Perhaps learn ABOUT him, from others, before talking to him, I'd say.

Sure, no church-goer has ever raped anyone!
Oh, wait... Isn't there a Tony Alamo in jail for life, for numerous child-rapes? According to Wikipedia, he's "a diagnosed clinical psychopath and a child-sex predator".
And he's the leader of a church!

1/18/2017 1:01:45 AM

Dizzy Dream

I'm glad there weren't any proms when I was finishing school. We got to go to Alton Towers instead.

The OP is a crappy matchmaker.

1/18/2017 7:35:00 AM

NeoMatrix

"It's not like he is a rapist or anything"

Famous last words right there.

1/18/2017 8:09:23 AM



Church goers can be rapists. Hell one church made a rape victim apologise to her congregation and rapist.

1/18/2017 8:13:44 AM

Shepard Solus

@Swede:
I didn't go to mine due to a combination of having very few friends and the school charging $100 for a ticket. With no forewarning about the price (the price was announced when they went on sale on the Monday of the week of the event). In a dirt poor town where the biggest business was a small grocery store while the gas station fought with the McDonald's (one of two lasting food joints) for second place. I don't get the feeling that the event did very well, though I never went back and never interacted with anyone beyond the school's walls so I never actually found out. That place was one big ongoing scam the entire time, though, so it was hardly a surprising turn of events. Lots of fundraisers with no discernable payoff. Banning from-home lunches and then jacking up the price of school food. Spending state funding on expensive new computers for the computer labs only for them to "mysteriously" disappear and leave us with old, boxy rigs running Windows 98 (in the mid 2000s). Place was a fucking pit. Of the communal outhouse variety.

Apparently I still hate that school near to the point of violence even a decade later. Good to know.

1/18/2017 8:21:53 AM

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