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I was spanked as a child. Bare assed. With a belt. What did I learn? I learned to fear my father and his temper. Is that the same as learning why what I did was wrong? Hell no. It just taught me not to get caught. It taught me to be afraid of someone who was supposed to love me and PROTECT me from pain, rather than INFLICT it.
I'm 32. In a few ways, I still fear my father. He hasn't even tried to do that since I reached a certain age (13+ or so), but the memory is still there.
He never sat down and explained why what I did was wrong. He reacted out of anger. He reacted violently (once with a smack over the head for good measure). That is NOT the way to raise a child.
When my daughter (1 1/2 years old) does something wrong, and won't listen to a firm "NO!" from her father and I, we smack her hand. Not hard enough to cause pain, mind. Only enough for her to hear and get her attention. I agree with whoever said that a firm smack in order to keep them from doing something dangerous is more warranted, but otherwise the above is enough. Once she's older, said "hey, pay attention" smack will be followed with a calm, reasonable discussion about why we said no and what we're protecting her from. Kids are smarter than you give them credit for, and some of them *do* actually listen. Sometimes more-firm punishments are warranted. But NEVER something like what I went through.
A parent that can do that to their child shouldn't be *around* that child.
3/3/2008 9:13:49 PM
Why am I hearing Emperor Palpatine saying to this guy, "Give in to your hate, boy!" ?
3/4/2008 1:37:39 AM
3/4/2008 5:34:34 PM
For the stupid troll What?. If you call somebody emmo, pussie or whatever, you have never been to college(let alone three times)and you're not liberal. You're a poor parody of a redneck idiot. And well, you're as funny as this guy who says that he turned into a good person...........not for their daughter, of course.
3/5/2008 3:31:27 PM
Hitting your children has been linked to an increased risk of them growing up to practice deviant sexual behaviour!
I don't buy it as I was never hit as a kid and have turned out all kinked but hey it's as good a come back as any I could think of!
3/5/2008 3:52:19 PM
"I think I turned into a good person"
No, you turned into a mentally deficient child abuser.
Hmm .... Travis. Last name isn't 'Bickle', is it?
3/7/2008 12:42:18 PM
The belt really bruised your five year old's behind? Belts don't bruise children, child abusers bruise children.
Hey, if belts, bruising, spanks and spatulas don't stop her calling you an arsehole, you should consider the possibility that you really are one. Everyone here thinks you are.
Oh, you didn't say she called you an arsehole? Wow, you've beaten the spirit of truth completely out of her.
3/7/2008 2:24:56 PM
I am glad my parents were strict with me because I think I turned into a good person
a really good person who beats his five year old with a belt.
5/22/2008 1:52:35 AM
What'd I Do
No. Fuck you. You are out of control.
2/6/2011 11:13:08 PM
Sorry, no, you are a bad person.
When I was a kid, we were taught that you should never hit someone smaller than yourself. Shouldn't that rule be valid for grown-ups too?
2/7/2011 12:23:35 AM
Evil fundie is evil.
2/8/2011 6:53:18 PM
You're saying you turned into a good person. Your post makes me think otherwise. Now i'm confused.
2/8/2011 6:54:45 PM
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