Christians: is it important to limit the kind of people your children associate with?
My son Martin is at a sensitive age, and he has a male friend who is on the feminine side. I know god disapproves of effeminite acts, am I wrong to stop them spending so much time together? I have stopped Martin going over to the boys house, and I only let them socialise in the living room where I can observe them. Hubby wants to stop the boy coming round altogether.
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Yeah, don't let your kid hang out with that other kid. He might get bummed out about how other boys have better, nicer, more open-minded parents than his own.
"I know god disapproves of effeminite acts...."
O RLY?
I don't recall anything in the Bible against an affected lisp, a sashaying walk, or being limp-wristed. (For that matter, there's nothing to suggest that the Bible is actually the word of any as-yet-unproved God, but we'll forego that for now.) If you've got personal communication with a deity that allows you to speak for him, you've got a few criteria to meet first before anyone should believe it.
~David D.G.
Oh wow, is there a higher torture than being considered female?
How can you be so self-hating, woman? You are passing your blindness onto your son. He will have no respect for anything remotely female since you have conditioned him to believe it's bad. I hope he turns out to be famously gay and happier without you.
Sigh. Being a kid in a fundie family must really suck. No wonder such a high percentage of them leave the religion during their collage years. But I guess they're the ones smart enough to make it to college, I imagine the creation science touting home-schooled ones don't get much of a chance at higher education.
@Princess Rot: Actually, I think that's one of the reasons why fundies hate homosexuals so much, because they challenge the fundies' gender roles by being the opposite of what the fundies have always expected from men and women. When two men marry, there is no woman to boss around; when two women marry, there is no man making all of the rules. Everything that the fundies have learned and accepted about men and women is thrown out the window once they hear about homosexuals and they can't stand to have their misogynistic beliefs threatened. Which is pretty sad, if you ask me.
It's always sad to me when women use names like 'Jayden's mommy.' Do mothers really only define themselves by their motherhood? I've seen many women call themselves so-and-so's mommy, but I've never seen men call themselves 'mary's dad.' Also, what happens if you have multiple children?
@Princess Rot:
"Oh wow, is there a higher torture than being considered female?
How can you be so self-hating, woman? You are passing your blindness onto your son. He will have no respect for anything remotely female since you have conditioned him to believe it's bad. I hope he turns out to be famously gay and happier without you."
When you put it that way, she sounds a bit like Ed Gein 's mother, who, to quote Wikipedia, "drummed into her boys the innate immorality of the world, the evil of drink and the belief that all women (herself excluded) were prostitutes, whores and instruments of the devil. According to Augusta Gein, sex was only for procreation. She reserved time every afternoon to read to them from the Bible, usually selecting graphic verses from the Old Testament dealing with death, murder and divine retribution."
Let's just hope that Martin doesn't start skinning women to craft a woman suit...
@Knotilus: Paul... Why am I not surprised?
Well, if they're not drinking, doing drugs, or anything else that's illegal or Really Fucking Stupid and Dangerous, I don't see why there'd need to be such stringent limits on who one's child can associate with.
So apparently it's not even enough for you not to be gay; even if you firmly like the opposite gender, being camp is still evil.
Is there anything that isn't a sin?
Confused?
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