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I am headed for a divorce and a great deal of the reason is because of my faith. I came to Christ after I was married and my wife refuses to. Over the years, my faith and pursuit of the Lord has created a widening gulf between my wife and I. She complains how I have changed so much since we got married. It is because of my faith, pursuit of, and growth in the Lord. I won't watch garbage television programs with her anymore. I won't listen to the debauched music that we used to share. I don't want to rent movies with sexual themes.

She resents me because of my faith in the Lord. She despises my belief that Christ's blood is the only way to Heaven; thereby despising me as well. She has of course fallen for the notion that she's going to Heaven because she's a "very good person." She believes in Heaven but doesn't quite believe in the God that created it.

How this relates to the OP is that my wife resents me and is beginning to hate me because of my faith--and the resentment and hate has been growing for years. All this while I am attempting to raise a daughter to love the Lord. I'm on fire for the Lord while my wife has no fire for anything. Please pray for her.

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old comment by GreenEyedLilo

That poor woman. You mean she doesn't like being told that her TV programs and music and movies and possibly her very own self are "debauched" and "garbage" by a man who used to love her? I *hope* she divorces your stupid ass. See how well Jesus keeps you warm at night, you sorry son of a bitch.

Oh, and because it's a thing with me, I dedicate a country song to your soon-to-be-ex. Danielle Peck's "I Don't."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJ7s87ItSf8

VERSE 1
You say you're doin' better
For your sake I hope it's true
I wish you well
But that's all that I can do
Save your "I'm sorry's"
Just leave 'em out the door
You can't make me feel guilty anymore

CHORUS
You say I should stay with you
That Jesus forgives you
You pray I will, but I won't
The difference is
Jesus loves you, I don't

VERSE 2
I know it sounds cruel
And it's really not like me, but
You've put me in a place
I never thought I'd be
These tears I'm crying
Are just tears of goodbye
I hope you find someone else
Somewhere in your life
Somewhere in your life

CHORUS
You say I should stay with you
That Jesus forgives you
You pray I will, but I won't
The difference is
Jesus loves you, I don't

BRIDGE
I don't wanna know you still want me
Don't need to hear you can't sleep
No I don't, no I don't

CHORUS
You say I should stay with you
That Jesus forgives you
You pray I will, but I won't
The difference is
Jesus loves you, Oh I know
Jesus loves you, I don't

old comment by J. Random Lurker

Cannot really blame the woman here. This guy's gone off the deep end and leaves her to wonder what happened to the man she loved and married.

I am no fan of divorce personally (and believe that in far too many cases it is used capriciously), but this is one case where it is cruel and heartless to keep this woman into a marriage with a kook that doesn't do s**t for her.

@The OP

You turned into a religious whacko and pretty much refuse to acknowledge her. It's called "emotional neglect" and she has every right in the book to dump your arse.

Sure, you can quote Ephesians (woman must submit to her husband), but did you read the other half of the quote?

Let me tell you this: a penis does not give you the right to dictate to your lady what she must and must not believe. Even I as a young man who's never been in a relationship with a woman (and a onetime fundie) can recognise this.

You sir a disgrace to humanity. Please DIAF...

old comment by Fundi-lusional

@Antichrist,
I was writing to Grimesy, who keeps posting in German, which many of us don't understand. I was making my point by writing "do you want a beer," "I like your table," and "I cannot have any beer" in Norwegian to show Grimesy that it's silly that he posts in German since most of us haven't a clue what he/she is saying. That's all I was doing with that post. And I am American, speak English, etc. I don't want anything except for Grimesy to translate his/her posts (there are quite a few in many threads) because most of us can't understand the posts. I was being sarcastic...I guess not very successfully..but, I'm a Minnesotan, so that's probably my problem...trying to be sarcastic doesn't work for us....the whole minnesota nice thing....ergh....er...

old comment by FMG

Wait, you don't spend any time with your wife. You constantly try to belittle her faith and wail on things she likes. Not even flirtatiously like (Damn Sex and the City, why can't it be more real and show the episode where the poodle haired one gets crabs and is mocked by the most promiscuous one?)

But you sit and watch it with your loved one. That way she will tolerate sitting with you while you are screaming about how Manchester City cannot score goals even if they other team decided to take a tea break and field a bunch of one legged, blind cripples with Stephen Hawkings in goal....

No wonder your marriages end mainly in divorce. Or murder suicide.

old comment by Journeyer

@Fundi-lusional

Joda, der finnes noen nordmenn som vanker på denne siden, men de fleste av oss er tilstrekkelig fortrolig med engelsk til å gjøre oss forstått (og til å forstå det som sies til oss). Forresten, ja takk; jeg tar gjerne en øl. ;)

Translation:

Sure there are a few norwegians trolling these boards, but most of us are sufficiently proficient with english to make ourselves understood (and to understand what is said to us). And by the way; I'd love a beer. :)

Now, regarding the OP.
JY11, you actually succeed in sounding surprised. How come? What surprises me is that apparently your wife has not already left. If it had been me ... (which would entail that I had either suddenly changed sex to become a woman, or gay marriage were legal over there, we were both gay and we, for some inexplicable reason, were actually married) ... I'd have left you as soon as you started talking about the bible as fact, degrading my taste in music and movies to "garbage" and attempting to indoctrinate our daughter.

I hope she does leave you, and I hope she does so soon - preferably before christmas so that she, and your daughter, can find somewhere more hospitable to celebrate the holidays. Or better yet; I hope she throws you out, lawyers up and skins you to the bone. It's your own damn fault for turning your back to reason and logic, and allowing yourself to be swallowed up by the fairytales and biblical nonsense. And I feel sorry for all of you, but as per your description, hope for yourself may be lost, but that is not the case for your wife and daughter. Let them free of the lunacy you attempt to bring into their lives.