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Posted by Ruth: I have two gay cousins. One is male and lives in san fran and the other is a lesbian and lives in london.I don't have a relationship with either but I do love them.Its hard when you see family going down a dangerous path and can't do anything about it. Me and my sibs were much younger then my cousins and when we had family dinners they were told by my aunt that if they were to never show affection towards their bf or gf in front of us kids.I don't think she went far enough because I grew up thinking gay was fine-that it was,{normal}.Even my mom being a christian didn't stop the influence thay had on us younger ones.I don't mean to sound uncaring but, I'm glad that I'm not close to that side of my family-I just wouldn't want all the arguments and hurt feelings.What do u do when u love your family who are gay, but u don't want them to influence your children? I wish I had the answer?

Posted by IlovemyJesus: Ruth, I wanted to tell you my husband and I made a decision a few months ago concerning my brother that came out of the closet to our family a year ago. We are going to love him no matter what. However, we will not allow him to have any type of influence over our children. If he is allowed by my parents to bring his "friend" to their house we will simply not go. We of course will not go to his home in another State as long as he is living the active homosexual lifestyle. Believe me it was not an easy conclusion, but my first priority is to sheild my children and that I will do....

Ruth, IlovemyJesus, Rapture Ready 59 Comments [11/26/2008 3:45:48 AM]
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Oh noes not tolerance, anything but that!

11/26/2008 3:51:09 AM


Love thy neighbor, mother fucker. Do you know it?

11/26/2008 3:58:53 AM

My cousins/brother/dog aren't a part of my life in any way, and I want it like that, but I love them, so I'm not a bad person!!

11/26/2008 3:59:31 AM


I feel sad for both of you because there is no love in you. For Ruth, gay IS OK. You both have made similar comments that you are going to "shield" your children, and that you do not want "them" to influence your children. Shield them from what? From two people that happen to be the same gender that love one-another? Shield them from love, acceptance, and tolerance? Oh my yes, those are evil things indeed. Just how are "they" (I find it interesting how many people use words to distance themselves from one another and in so doing make the other person less of a person; "them" is a classic example) going to influence your children? Oh, I know, the homosexual family members might just show your children that love between two grown adults has many forms, these family members might instill tolerance, kindness and love upon your children. Some things that your children are going to surely lack. Or maybe you are afraid that "they" are going to turn your children gay. Guess what? It does not work that way. It is sad that you both belong to a relgion that teaches hatred and not love. If you truly loved your family members you would accept them, even if you still believed that they were somehow in "sin"; and sure, you would even talk to them about "sin". But in the end, if you truly loved them you would accept them. You would also realize that a book written more than 2000 years ago has no basis for today. You would also realize that evenif it did that it does NOT condemn homosexuality. Indeed, it is filled with several homosexual relationships that "god" APPROVED of.


11/26/2008 4:03:22 AM


Shield your children like that and they won't ever accept anyone with that situation.

You two repulse me.

11/26/2008 4:08:02 AM


How do you love someone you've cut out of your life completely?

11/26/2008 4:18:45 AM


Thanks for making me extremely grateful for my own family.

11/26/2008 4:21:25 AM


What the heck? They're not going to get down and have sex on the carpet in front of the kids.

11/26/2008 4:37:45 AM


I love my jesus but I hate my brother? How do you rationalize that?

11/26/2008 4:55:53 AM


I would rather leave my kids alone with a gay couple than either of you.

11/26/2008 5:05:45 AM


Your cousins can't influence your kids, even if they were living in the same house. Homosexuality isn't contagious, nor is it a learned behavior.

11/26/2008 5:37:04 AM


You don't know the meaning of the word love.

11/26/2008 5:41:25 AM


No wonder I get Depressed so often... the world is filled with hate and fear masked as love

11/26/2008 5:47:44 AM


Fundies have such a fucked up definition of love. Apparently, to them, it requires no action or emotion at all. You can love someone and hate everything about them at the same time. You can avoid someone your entire life, and still say that you love them. And then they have the nerve to say that breaking feelings and emotions down to just chemicals in the brain is "cheapening" them.

11/26/2008 5:55:54 AM


Why is it that your Christian love exactly resembles unchristian bigotry?

11/26/2008 6:29:24 AM


...I do love them.


I don't have a relationship with either...


11/26/2008 6:59:14 AM


by cutting your brother out of your kids' lives you've given him NO reason to care about them. If you and your husband DIAF then they're off to the orphanage. When brother dies, all his estate will go to the animal shelter or somewhere NOT THE FAMILY.

You exclude him and eventually he'll exclude you.

PS you don't love him, you're grandstanding your emotions to the world to try and make everybody think that you love him, and are "compassionate" - as a true Xian (TM) should be

11/26/2008 7:19:04 AM


"I don't have a relationship with either but I do love them"

I don't have a relationship with Angelina Jolie but I do love her.

11/26/2008 7:24:31 AM


Considering how easily my fundie family cut me out of their lives, I really doubt it was a tough decision.

But I know they 'love' me too.

11/26/2008 7:50:46 AM


Wow! The twisted logic- it is sublime! I'm not an ass, because I still love them- it's them that makes me behave like a cross-burning, hate-spitting hillbilly.

11/26/2008 8:08:58 AM


Oh, for the sake of FUCK. I have no comment but that.

11/26/2008 8:49:50 AM


"For the children!"

11/26/2008 9:02:10 AM

I shield my children from hateful fundies like you.

11/26/2008 9:04:32 AM


And yet you still think gay people choose this........

11/26/2008 9:07:07 AM


We all know that teh ghey can be caught by talking to one...

11/26/2008 9:17:02 AM

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