I can tell you
I'm sure you quite the authority when it comes to having to have other people make your decisions for you. After all, you are a good christian woman and the bible says that it's a sin for women to think for themselves.
I had no Godly training on how to chose a husband and I don't think anyone else in my family did either.
What? Life doesn't comes with a user's manual, you have to learn through experience or observation just like everybody else.
So, really, I chose my husband,
That's kinda how it works. In this day and age you get to choose who you want to marry rather than your family patriarch choosing who you will marry so that it will provide political or finacial profit for him. What i can't fathom is why you think that choosing who you want to marry is a bad thing.
I didn't wait for God to chose him for me.
If you did then you'd still be waiting for a long, long time. It seems to me that you think everything in your life is supposed to be handed to you by "god" or someone you think speaks on it's behalf. What you need to ask yourself is "Why do I feel I am incapable of making decision about my life? Why do I give other people authority to make my decisions for me? Do these people have my best intrest in mind?." In other words, It's time to grow up and quit acting like you have to coddled and guided around like sheep. There will come a time when you need to think for yourself and make decisions that will effect your life, what will you do then if theres no one there to tell you what to think or do?
I think many women make their own choice thinking on their emotions instead of waiting on God.
Well god forbid that a woman dare to think for herself. Women are not creatures of pure emotion that are incapable of making rational decisions and you insult yourself and your gender by assuming such a thing to be true. Likely the only reason you have that opinion is because someone you see as an authority told you that was your opinion.
Is there even a biblical command for women to wait until "god" tells them who they will marry? No there isn't, because in biblical times women were consider property of their fathers and they werew to marry whoever their father sold them too. Is that how you see yourself? As livestock to be herded from place to place, being told what to do, what to think, and what to feel? To be sold or discarded whenever your master sees fit? You make me ashamed to share a species with you, why anyone would wish to make themselves little more than a slave to a being that they can't even prove exists is beyond me.
This is how they get "stuck" with the abuser.
Newsflash lady, no one is "stuck" with an abuser in the manner you are speaking of except by feeling that they can't leave the relationship because of some form of religious proscription or religious retaliation. In your analogy the reason they "can't" leave is simply because they have given up their ability to make decisions and have allowed someone else to tell them what they can or cannot do. That isn't living, that's being livestock.
