My son is dating an atheist what should i do?
My son asked if he could bring a girl to the house to study and i was happy that he had taken an interest in dating. They were reading in his room and i came in to bring them some snacks and started chit chatting. I asked her what Church her and her family went to and she disclosed that they were...atheists. I literally grabbed the cookie out of her hand and told her to leave our home at once. She started crying, my son was all upset, and now i feel like the bad guy. But i am just trying to be a good mother.
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Go ye therefore, and kick strangers out of your house and deny them hospitality, because we didn't really want to convince *them* to be Christians anyway.
No, I don't think that sounds right, somehow...
This might be a Poe...but, then again, Pat Robertson told a woman to dump her fiancee because he was an atheist. You also wouldn't have to ask too many atheists to find one who was tossed aside by a religious friend or family member for the same reason.
Such is tribalism.
You nosy bitch, you had no right even asking that question. But since you did, and she's not religious, weren't you commanded to try to convert her? You really blew it. Oh and treating people like shit and humiliating your son does not make you holy. Asshole
You are scum it shouldn't matter whether you believe in god or not, that is no reason for you to mistreat the poor girl, I don't care what religion you practice you just don't do that, don't act surprised if your son moves away from your religion heck I would too if my mom ever did something like that and aren't Christians supposed to be compassionate. I apologize for this lengthy rant but things like this piss me off!
Poe. Pooooooooe. Poooooooooooooe. And not a terribly good one at that either. Maybe about a year ago, I would have fallen straight for this, but after browsing through FSTDT for so long, I can now see a Poe coming from a mile away. Just like IMDb taught me to detect a Rick Roll behind every tinyurl.
This has happened to my daughter as well, things like this. My daughter has come home a few times crying her makeup onto her shirt.
It has hardened her. She no longer takes crap from some of them, and she steers clear of the rest. Sadly, this may be a POE, but things like this have happened to my family in real life.
more answers to this bitch:
"From the nightmare stories I've seen on here lately, you are on to something. Being a strong mother as a Christian is important; maybe this will save you from the abortion/unwed mother episodes not uncommon here. Just know that most daters are doing premarital sex, and as I've told some on here, standard birth control methods aren't 100% effective for pregnancy/AIDS/STDs. So, if your son has a girlfriend, at least make sure she is Christian. Maybe then, she would keep him from going too far until marriage. More likely, at least she'll be a Christian, whatever happens. Sounds like serious prayer time. I like the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association prayer ministry toll-free at 1-877-247-2426 in the USA. After prayer, you or your husband need to have a strong talk with your son."
You're definitely the "bad" guy. Learn what an Atheist is, before you start passing judgement.
We are NON religion, and in no means anti-religion.
You've done the girl a favour. You've alerted her to the dire truth that she could have become hitched to a fellow whose ancestry is of dubious merit. Your family's genes are not what she wants for her future offspring. She will come to see that there is a possible disposition toward paranoia and gullibility within him, and will consider herself and any future children to have had a lucky escape.
You are the bad guy. If you're that concerned about your son dating non-Christians you could have politely ended the conversation or changed the subject, then talked with your son after she left. It's not like her presence was going to taint your home or something. And obviously you forgot something in your talking with your son, or, he doesn't feel being an atheist is as unpardonable as you obviously do (good for him).
*edit*
This may well be a Poe, but I've been in a situation much like this.
Met a guy at work, started hanging out, Fundie parents had a problem with me and my secular family, so we dated in secret until we were caught after about a year. They forced us apart, transferred him to another place of work, moved to another neighborhood, and made him change colleges , all because of me.
He was 19. I was 22.
There was no sex involved, I was a virgin at the time, an all around good kid, no drugs, alcohol, or smoking. Good grades, all that good stuff.
My only hope is their son breaks free from it all one day and finds true happiness outside of their brainwashing cult. He was a good guy; I'd hate to see him end up a mindless zombie like his parents.
You ARE the bad guy! What a horrible host you are. She has done nothing to you. A good mother is kind and hospitable to her sons guests, and waits till they have left on their own accord, before criticizing them.
From the other response: "So, if your son has a girlfriend, at least make sure she is Christian. Maybe then, she would keep him from going too far until marriage."
"So, if your son has a girlfriend, at least make sure she is Christian. Maybe then, she would keep him from going too far until marriage."
Why should it be up to her to keep him from going too far? Wouldn't it be better to teach your son to respect himself, and her, and control himself?
Oh, that's right. In fundie-land, guys are never responsible for their own sexuality.
Unless they're attracted to other guys, of course. Then there are no women to pin the blame on. You know, like when they're raped. And you can't have sex without a woman suffering the punishment of pregnancy, can you.
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If someone behaved like this, it would mean they have automatically assumed their son consorting with an atheist would somehow pollute him and lead him to atheism, not that the girl would be converted to his beliefs and be saved.
So they'd basically be admitting that their (rather, their son's) faith is the weaker one.
and now i feel like the bad guy
Your instincts are right: you are a miserable, intolerant bitch.
Your son will end up paying for your "hospitality" in that she will never date him again and word will get around that you're just a bitch so no other girls will be interested in him either. Bravo.
"I literally grabbed the cookie out of her hand and told her to leave our home at once."
Because she might start taking him up to her bedroom and... (dare I say it?!) ...tell him about the Big Bang and Evolution!!!111one1!eleventyone!1
For SHAME!
Hey lady, do you know the story of 'Romeo and Juliet'? You know why they killed themselves? Because their parents were too damn busy being assholes, that's why! Why am I making this analogy? Because if you keep doing stuff like that, it might end like 'Romeo and Juliet'!
This is most likely a Poe, but sadly, I've seen this sort of thing happen. There are insane, intolerant fundies of various stripes that will disown/not accept their own children or those they choose to date or whatever due to ass-backwards "religious beliefs".
No cookie for you heathen! That's almost funny.
But i am just trying to be a good mother.
Of course, it's your job to make little girls cry.
i honestly feel bad for this family.
as much pity i have for the son and the girl involved, i find it a shame that a normally kind person would be pushed to such hateful actions, because she has been taught to fear everyone different from her.
I believe that she really is trying to be a good mother, and that is the saddest part of it all.
>>"I asked her what Church her and her family went to and she disclosed that they were...atheists. I literally grabbed the cookie out of her hand and told her to leave our home at once. She started crying, my son was all upset, and now i feel like the bad guy."
Well, you SHOULD. Because you WERE. And the fact that you're having those pangs at least means you have SOME consideration for the feelings of someone else.
>>"But i am just trying to be a good mother."
Liar. It wouldn't be surprising if your son turned out to be an atheist when he gets older.
Guess what, Lizz! The news is out!
Your son is an authentic "Mama's Boy" at his school now. That should make him actually beg you to homskool him.
Things being as they are, the best alternative would probably involve some healthy adolescent rebellion on his part.
From the answers:
"So not cool really that is not a example of Christian tolerance.
Peace and Blessings = )"
Oh thank goodness some sanity...
"I literally grabbed the cookie out of her hand and told her to leave our home at once."
What a BITCH!!!! Feel that Christian love, huh? What better way to demonstrate the best ideals of your faith by taking back an offered treat and forcing a guest out of your house at once? Bet that girl has a positive view of Christians after that experience.
*Edit*
OK, so it's a Poe, but I do know that this kind of stuff happens every day, from reading the examples of people posting here and from personal experiences of people I know. What better way to turn someone against religion than by showing them this kind of behavior? Especially after Jesus said to love thy neighbor and love thy enemies...
Christian love at its finest. The poor girl wasn't even allowed to finish her cookie.
Why don't these cunts all go and die in a fire, or something.
cookie snatcher, I hope you threw the cookie away since it was touched by a vile atheist.
I presume your son is in high school. Be glad that he likes girls and that one likes him. If he is old enough have the sex talk with him, and maybe make sure he has condoms available.
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