#1, sex before marriage... its downright wicked and its down right wrong, regardless of what you say its what the Bible says... Touching(kissing,hugging,Holding hands) before marriage... according to 1 Corinthians 7:1 it is not, holding hands, kissing, hugging, necking, petting and all such things are not right before marriage? why? because God knew ahead of time that doing things of that nature cause men to have nearly uncontrollable sexual desires which can go to far, God rights this rule also becuase she is not yours to have sex with, there is averse that speaks of that but I can't get it of the top of my mind, whether its harmless kiss or holding hands, its wrong by God's law... Dating, dating is wrong, getting into a lot of dating relationships regardless of how much purity is in each one is wrong because you are making commitments out side of marriage to girls/woman who are not yours... the are exeptions in dating, like if you know a girl and you both are good friends and they are having sometihng like a valentines banquet at church... it is best to be in groups... If dating isn't the way, how do I find a wife, you don't go looking for a wife, let God do that, you keep your purity, when the time comes God will show her to you... God will find her for you, yoou keep pure and godly and Gos will give her to you,