Quote# 79622

Most dads would rather be told they have terminal cancer than have their son tell them he is gay, particularly if it is your only son. Coming out of the closet is a selfish act. It turns your problem into your family’s problem and forces everyone around you to live a lie. I have seen this destroy families. If you are gay, stay in the closet.

wolfman23601, Free Republic 127 Comments [2/22/2011 4:29:57 AM]
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"Most dads would rather be told they have terminal cancer than have their son tell them he is gay"

At first was pretty shocked by this sentence, but then I remembered that FReepers live in a world where Christians are persecuted and homosexuality is a real threat to society.

The entire topic is, well, the train wreck that FR got us used to. Bo-ring.

2/22/2011 3:52:30 PM

Rebelious Brat

Excuse me, but my father has cancer. My brother is possibly gay. Guess which one the whole family thinks is a bigger deal?

2/22/2011 4:14:54 PM

Ensign Crusher


That sums it up. Nicely.

2/22/2011 4:37:33 PM


The only "dad" that would rather be told that is a "dad" that did not give a shit about his own child. Having a child and then not caring about that child, thinking only of yourself and your needs is a selfish act. I hope you do not reproduce you pitiful waste of skin.

2/22/2011 5:02:38 PM


Of course, you find it impossible to believe that other people might not be as hate-filled as you.

2/22/2011 5:10:06 PM


Thank you for yet another reason to be grateful I grew up in a liberal family.

2/22/2011 5:51:49 PM


If Jesus does come back, I hope he goes to your house and punches you in the fucking face.

2/22/2011 5:55:17 PM


I would comment on this, but there comes to mind a phrase about shooting fish in barrels.

2/22/2011 6:15:42 PM


I'm queer, and I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks. And you know what? I love myself even more now that I'm out and proud, and if acknowledging my homosexuality makes someone uncomfortable, then that's their problem. I'm so past your self-hating, heteronormative, know-your-place guilt-tripping, so take it and shove it. If you'd rather have terminal cancer than a gay son, then that says more about you than your son. Hell, your bigotry is a terminal cancer that spent nearly twenty years eating at my soul. Even after I was out, I still thought that kissing heterosexist ass was the "right" thing to do, and I still thought that I should be grateful and subservient because you were "generous" enough to "let" me have the less-than-equal rights I already do.

Fuck. That. Bullshit.

2/22/2011 6:23:17 PM

spam hammich

Kid being gay = now we gotta hate you forever. It's a huge bother to break off a relationship with our kids since they're supposed to be our slaves in old age. If only you would hate yourself and hide your nature so we don't have to put in the effort of moving. Otherwise our house will get burned to the ground by our church group and then WHERE WOULD WE LIVE?!

2/22/2011 7:23:13 PM


Just because you would doesn't mean most or a small portion, fucknut

2/22/2011 8:22:32 PM


[It turns your problem into your family’s problem and forces everyone around you to live a lie. ]

As opposed to staying in the closte and forcing your future spouse and children to live a lie?

2/22/2011 9:03:48 PM


How the hell does being honest about yourself "force everyone around you to live a lie?"

2/22/2011 9:53:58 PM


family’s problem and forces everyone around you to live a lie.
No it makes them face the facts.
Oh and I have an only son I don't give an damm if he's gay or not.

2/22/2011 9:56:27 PM

Janey Q Doe

I'm pretty sure my terminally ill father would much rather my brother was gay than have cancer. Of course, he isn't an ignorant, homophobic waste of carbon, so it wouldn't have bothered him before anyway.

2/22/2011 10:54:16 PM


I also sense a bit of sexism here as well....all of this jazz about DADS, SONS & GAY SONS and stuff.

It's the whole "Gay is unmanly" Patriarchal, heterosexed crap.

2/23/2011 1:41:11 AM


Hmm, there's a commercial just like that for some gay support organization being broadcast on the radio over here recently:

"Mom, dad, I've got something to tell you... I'm gay"
"Well, no, actually I'm not gay, I just have cancer"
"Oh! Whew, what a relief!"

Anyway, to the point, it's the "staying in" that potentially makes it a problem and leads to "living a lie", coming out does the exact opposite. Problems are in the eye of the beholder and if your family somehow feels "forced" or inconvenienced by your following a natural and harmless lifestyle, well then tough for them.

And religion, along with the repression, hypocrisy and guilt trips that it encourages and inspires, destroys and hurts a lot more families than any consentual sexual practice ever did.

2/23/2011 2:13:34 AM


I hope you get terminal cancer.

2/23/2011 2:52:47 AM

Dan Onymous

"I have seen this destroy families."

If you're that much of an uncaring cunt that you'd rather have terminal cancer than love your children unconditionally, then your family is probably better off destroyed.

2/23/2011 3:37:57 AM

If I remember well, telling the truth doesn't force you to live a live. Sorry, you can't have both.

2/23/2011 4:44:53 AM

Following your logic, better not to have anything in your life that may be a problem to your family. Why not an atomic haven?

2/23/2011 4:56:08 AM

Mrs. Antichrist

Just because you're a homophobic shitbag doesn't mean most people are, asshole.

2/23/2011 6:44:42 AM



2/23/2011 7:12:45 AM


1. I would take living with a gay son over dying of cancer. FYI, I like living. The world is filled with awesome things like women, pizza, taco bell and the discovery channel. I like it.

2. I don't have a problem with my son being gay. Free fashion advice and someone who can take my wife shopping... I will ensure he is so stereotypically gay for all the benefits I can get. In exchange... Rugby Matches

3. It only destroys families if people have a problem with it. If your answer to "Son is gay" is "Lunatic Meltdown" then the problem is yours not your son's.

2/23/2011 7:32:39 AM



Seconding dionysus:

2/23/2011 7:51:33 AM

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