If you are a feminist, God will punish you. If you disobey your husband, then you are a feminist. If you are a Christian couple and you drag your husband through a heathen court system, then you have done great evil against your man. God will punish you in eternity. Communism wants to destroy your marriage and your family; but it cannot unless you play their game. They may steal your kids, and there's literally nothing you can do except hire an expensive lawyers (and you'll pay tens-of-thousands of dollars). But the only way they can ruin your marriage is if you let Satan do so. The worst thing you can do is involve other people in your marriage, because nearly every time they will advice divorce. People are like rats. Church people are no better. In fact, they're more dangerous because you tend to let down your guard around them. The divorce rate is just as high amongst so-called Christians as it is amongst the wicked unsaved heathen world. You can make all the excuses you want in your evil little heart (Jeremiah 17:9), but it won't make any difference in eternity, where you will be judged by God's unchanging Law.