Bring back tea parties, please. Girls getting together to celebrate the girl bond with over-the-top partying and pampering seems so much forced fun and desperate escape. I recently met a middle-aged woman who was going on a cruise with dozen or so other women her age. Mind you, they didn’t represent an organization that was gathering around a cause. I could understand that. They were just having a girl vacation and leaving their families behind. It sounded dreadful. Women aren’t meant to travel in packs.
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Yes, it is important for women to socialize with each other and it is good for them to get away from their families if they do it in the right spirit. I wasn’t referring to things like lunches out or baby showers. I’m talking about hedonistic girl gatherings.
My mother never expressed a desire to vacation without her husband or her children. I’m sure she wouldn’t have chosen a trip with twelve friends when we were young. A few friends maybe.
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I can't decide if the subtext here is
"Horrors! Others are enjoying themselves doing something I don't think is fun."
or
"Nobody ever invited me; why did they leave me out?"
So what's the difference between two or three friends and a dozen? It's like you're saying that taking a trip with three friends is female bonding, but get a dozen together and it's ladies' night at the strip club.
And frankly, what business is it of yours what women do when they get together?
Can't you have a tea party at a cruise?
If you organize a gathering on a cruise, with the cause of gathering and having fun, then you'd be an organization gathering around a cause.
Your mother does not represent every woman in the world, stupid. I never expressed a desire for traveling either, but that's because I don't particularly like to travel. But, most women I know do like to travel.
Women aren’t meant to travel in packs.
I've never known women to not travel in packs. In fact, every piece of literature I've read or movie I've watched in the last almost four decades suggests that women do in fact travel in groups.
"Yes, it is important for women to socialize with each other and it is good for them to get away from their families if they do it in the right spirit. I wasn’t referring to things like lunches out or baby showers. I’m talking about hedonistic girl gatherings. "
Are you talking about lesbian orgies?
Nothing wrong with a little self-indulgence and/or some travel. The occasional girl's night out does not make someone a Casey Anthony-geez! You just don't want women to have fun, but guess what? Girls just wanna have fun, and if you don't like it you can pog ma thon!
Honestly, as an adult, I could only see a "family vacation"with little kids as freaking dreadful. As a kid, it's all fun. But as an adult you have to put up with all the planning and work and whining. The women undoubtedly have to put up with a lot of grief and stress from spouse and children.
A lot of women would rather have a cruise or other vacation where they can totally enjoy themselves, horror or horrors. And, hey, if they want to be "hedonistic" then whatever. Women enjoying themselves shouldn't automatically be considered bad, ffs...
"It sounded dreadful. Women aren’t meant to travel in packs."
What the hell are you talking about? Most women don't even go to the bathroom without other women going with them.
"Yes, it is important for women to socialize with each other and it is good for them to get away from their families if they do it in the right spirit. I wasn’t referring to things like lunches out or baby showers. I’m talking about hedonistic girl gatherings."
If you think there's a difference, maybe you're just not being invited to the right lunches or baby showers.
"My mother never expressed a desire to vacation without her husband or her children."
Let me guess, you were born sometime in the 1940s or 1950s, right?
"I’m sure she wouldn’t have chosen a trip with twelve friends when we were young. A few friends maybe."
What difference does it make if its a "few" friends or 100 friends?
Women aren’t meant to travel in packs.
Ho, NOES, it's The Attack of the She-Wolves! Aaaarrrghhh!
I’m talking about hedonistic girl gatherings.
Hedonistic, you say? Hmmm. Where is this cruise again? Can guys come? No pun intended. Hehehe.
I’m sure she wouldn’t have chosen a trip with twelve friends when we were young
Twelve friends. Hmmm, that number rings a bell with me somehow. Jeezus ---
"Bring back tea parties"
I seem to remember in my history classes at school about a certain 'Tea Party' in Boston; a protest against the monopolisation of & tax levied by Britain upon the US. 'No taxation, without representation', and all that jazz.
So you're all for lawlessness; anarchy & chaos eh, Laura? So you'll have nothing against women 'travelling in packs', on pub crawls; even 'Booze Cruises'/'Club 18-30'/'Ibiza Weekends' and marauding 'Hen Parties' abroad, eh...?!
(*sings *):
'Sisters are doing it for themselves!
-Annie Lennox
(Loved ya in the 2012 London Olympics Closing Ceremony, BTW; looking very Goth there! b^_^d )
I'm sure I must have mentioned this by now, but really darling, if you would just stop using spray starch when you ironed your underwear, the world would seem a much nicer place.
My mother never expressed a desire to vacation without her husband or her children.
Your mother isn't the be-all and end-all of American culture, let alone world culture, and neither are you. You must be really miserable and not have been given an option for enjoying life if you so desperately want everyone else to be as miserable as you are.
Women aren’t meant to travel in packs.
They do if they want to avoid being raped by some asshat who thinks women should be at home, barefoot and pregnant.
>>Bring back tea parties, please.<<
You obviously haven't been to a high-end teahouse. Over-the-top is part of what they do.
Example: The Plaza Athénée in Paris. Quoting from this review http://www.bownsbest.com/plazaathenee.htm :
...I love my tea. Here it is served in the handsome Galerie des Gobelins. Comfortably settled in a gilt-framed fauteuil, bathed in the glow of half a dozen (uncovered) crystal chandeliers, I sipped Assam (8 euros) and nibbled on chocolate eclairs decorated with gold leaf (12 euros). I must commend to you one particular comestible: terrine of duck foie gras on toast. This is an unusual tea-time offering, but it goes surprisingly well with a cup of tea. Six pieces are 18 euros. All these delights were brought to me by waiters in dark jackets with high collars. Their attentions have become popular with Parisians, so you will need to book your table for tea.
It gets even more outrageous: if you order mint tea, they roll the planter of mint plants to your table and harvest it right there.
Did you think that "over-the-top partying and pampering" only included cruises or the stereotypical spring break?
Women are allowed to gather together and leave their families to have some fun on their own. It's not illegal, it's not immoral, and unless the husband is a total nitwit who can't accomplish the simplest of tasks, it's not going to cause the family "left behind" to collapse if the mother is out of the house for a few days.
Talk about a confused mind. This one contradicts herslef.
Middle-aged women will have their family raised, and if one sees a problem with a group of them going off together to enjoy themselves, one must be a right old withered up prune. Does the word Puritan come to mind?
My own family was loveless, yet I could sense my mother's destructive stress and my father's self-esteem issues.
She's got a Philipino girlie
@nazani14
The anime series "K-ON!". 'Hokago Tea Time'. Yui, Ritsu, Mio, Mugi-chan and Azu-nyan (also their club advisor Sawako-sensei). An after-school 'Light Music Club'. Taking time to have Tea and Cakes (& other forms of confectionery) whilst socialising. Even - as per the recent film - going on a post-graduation trip to London.
Such aspects are seen as a virtue . "K-ON!" has become such a massive hit, it's seen as effectively saving the anime industry as a whole, when previously it was in the doldrums (with one or two anime studios going to the wall: Gonzo, for one)
Madhouse (formerly lauded for their anime adaptation of the massive manga hit by CLAMP, "CardCaptor Sakura"; this series destroyed "Pokemon" as a TV phenomenon, and it never regained it's former glory since) has gone under. But that's what you get for doing the anime adaptations of "Kaiji" & "Akagi", with it's terminally ugly sundial-nosed cunts; "Redline" sealed it's fate.
...meanwhile, Kyoto Animation are raking in the Yen. Especially via huge DVD/Blu-Ray sales of "K-ON" (as well as "The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya") outside of Japan (especially UK & USA). Not bad, for a series about young women who are the best of friends, who have tea parties, and who 'travel in a pack '.
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