Being friends in an implicit manner is fine, when the topic of whether we're attracted to each other never even comes up (so situations like colleagues at work etc). But when a girl says I'm not her type, but says she likes talking to me or something (basically friendzone), I automatically strive to completely sever the relationship instead of agreeing on being just friends. I know pride only hurts and never helps, but that's just the way I feel about stuff. Many guys would say "get over it" and just accept the relationship for what it is, but I'm not the type to just go out for beers with a female friend I had every intention of fucking and pretend I'm not bothered by her rejection (whatever the reasons may be). Is it normal?
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Stay friends. If you are very lucky, maybe, eventually, she does end up falling in love with you after all. If not, you still have a friend !
Of course, if you have to ask, you were never her friend. You are not even capable of friendship, let alone love. You are just a sex-obsessed manipulative arsehole.
"I'm not the type to just go out for beers with a female friend I had every intention of fucking"
Perhaps not being such an entitled asshole that you can truthfully use the phrase "a female friend I had every intention of fucking" with regard to any woman who's not your fully consenting FWB female friend might help.
It's very not normal to unilaterally decide "I'm gonna fuck this chick", then act like she's wronged you because she had the audacity to have an opinion on the matter.
The one I know IRL is currently trying to ruin a former colleague's wrestling career and her social life for not reciprocating his feelings.
So yes, they are incapable of seeing women as friends or work colleagues (he's an indie wrestling manager).
Meh. So long as you admit that you didn't actually want a friend. I don't care how shallow you are (cause hey I've liked people for shallow reasons too), so long as you're honest about it and don't cause her any grief over it. Go ahead and be as flaky and superficial as you want, provided you accept the consequences of being a friendless dick.
What kind of wart on humanity's ass are you? You are so wrapped up in your self centered expectations that if it don't go, you indict the entire female sex. You do show hope however, you question if this is normal. It's not. And you don't show all that much hope. But keep trying. And by that I mean just grow up. Reality wasn't in any way custom built for you, and it certainly wasn't for me, either.
Playing Devil's advocate, at least he was up front about the fact that he was looking to date her, or at least get into her pants and he's willing to move on, which is a lot more than I can say for a lot of "friend zoned nice guys" who can't accept that the object of their affection is never going to date/fuck them and growing increasingly bitter and resentful until they become and "incel".
It's like I keep telling a lot of "friend zone" whiners; if being around the object of your affection is too hard or you aren't interested in friendship, then cut her out of your life and move on, which the guy above is clearly doing. Being rejected sucks, I've faced enough of it in my life, but it's a part of life and you need to accept that.
Of course, this dipshit saying he was "bothered by her rejection" sort of ruins the fact that he for one brief moment appeared to be acting like an adult about it but at least he acknowledges that there's something wrong with that. My response would be, "If she isn't into you, there isn't a lot you can do to change that" and find some way to encourage that brief glimmer of self awareness that he showed.
As a few people here have pointed out, something may develop over time but considering it sounds like this little douchebag was being a manipulative jerk, I think he's doing this woman a favor by staying out of her life.
If your "friendships" are based entirely on other people suiting a purpose you define for them and reject out of spite anyone that does not interact with you - or even exists in the immediate vicinity of you - solely on your terms then you have never been anyone's friend.
It is not normal. I would not be able to live in a world where that was normal.
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